The Dancing Puritan

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

The Forbidden Woman and The Foolish Man Part Two

This is part two of The Forbidden Woman and the Foolish Man. I had intended to write about how a person can protect their heart from falling into sexual sin by offering some biblical remedies. However, I felt more needed to be said about the forbidden woman and the foolish man today. More to come.



The forbidden woman of Proverbs is available, provocative, aggressive, religious, scheming, beautiful and desirable. She is also a guide that leads her prey to death and hell.

The wicked seductress may not live next door. She may not chase you down at the grocery store. But she is everywhere lurking. She is one mouse-click away from entering your heart. Don't go near her door.

She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home; now in the street, now in the market, now at every corner she lies in wait (Proverbs 7:11-12).

Though the godly woman is not portrayed in the Bible as a prisoner of her home, she nevertheless finds the core of her life connected to her home (Proverbs 31; Psalm 128). She loves home. She loves rising early to care for husband and children and working diligently throughout the day to make sure that her family is clothed, fed and cared for. In her home she welcomes strangers and shows them hospitality.  She ministers to fellow Christians. She leaves her home to care for the sick. She shares the gospel and she disciples new Christians. She is on the go--but her on-the-go kind of life is one that finds its roots in God's calling for her at home.

The wicked woman is described by; her feet do not stay at home; now in the street, now in the market, now at every corner she lies in wait. It is not simply that she is restless with her home life while her husband travels for work. She is restless. But her heart churns up ideas for capturing young men. The senseless young man falls easily into her trap. One of the reasons that he is such easy prey is that he is searching for the forbidden woman. He is described as passing along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house in the twilight, in the evening at the time of night and darkness (7:7-8). The impression is that he too is restless, wandering and looking. He uses the cover of darkness in order to hide his intentions.

The provocatively dressed woman meets him (10). In today's terms she would be wearing a tight, form-fitting short skirt with a low-cut top. She is aggressive and seizes him and kisses him (13). She makes it all seem OK because she talks of her religious activities earlier in the day. She is deceived and she easily deceives the young man--he has found a beautiful, exciting, sexy, sweet-talking religious woman.  What could be better?

The forbidden woman then describes the scene in which she plans to be sexually intimate with the young man. But before she does she tells him, I have come out to meet you, to seek you eagerly, and I have found you (15). That makes the young man feel manly and special. Out of all of the men in the world, he imagines that this exciting, sexy, beautiful, sweet-talking religious woman--wants him!

I have spread my couch with coverings, colored lines from Egyptian linen; I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. Come, let us take our fill of love till morning; let us delight ourselves with love. For my husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey; he took a bag of money with him; at full moon he will come home (16-20).

The guy is already captured. With a sweet and alluring voice she speaks. She describes a scene that captivates the young man's heart. It all seems so good, how could it be wrong? He can almost feel the silky sheets and smell the perfumed bed. And she says that it is all about love--love all night--delightful love. And, as she has described, this will be safe sex. It is safe because she has offered her sacrifices and paid her religious vows. She has worked this out with God. It is also safe because the husband is long gone and will not be home for days. The seductive woman and the senseless man can swim in love for as long as they like without any consequences, or so it is surmised.

Read Proverbs chapters two, five and seven for more context.  Think through what I have written and consider applications to your present situation.  Seek God's wisdom.