The Dancing Puritan

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

The Forbidden Woman and the Foolish Man: Remedies

One of the problems that we face with sin is that sin is so appealing. Temptation to sin does not generally show up as a leprous woman in a bikini. Sin is appealing to the eyes, desirable to the heart and offers exciting promises (Genesis 3:6). Therein is the great danger of sin. It looks good, feels good and offers good results.

Stolen water is sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant (Proverbs 9:17).

Sin is sweet and pleasant.  It was Moses who made the tough choice of being... mistreated with the people of God than to enjoy the fleeting pleasures of sin (Hebrews 11:25).

It is a tough choice on one level.  Sometimes avoiding sin might mean being mistreated in some form or fashion whereas sinning puts one on what appears to be a successful trajectory of friends, comforts, money, success and sexual pleasure. Sin is sweet. Sin is pleasant. And sin is deadly.

We have considered some of the remedies for fighting off the forbidden woman and the foolish man (see

Here are a few more.

Cultivate an awareness that you live before the face of God

The Bible teaches, in connection with sexual sin, For a man's ways are before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all of his paths (Proverbs 5:21). To know that the holy eyes of God are upon you at all times, and that his eyes are able to ponder the deepest recesses of your heart, should serve as a sufficient accountability. The sinner often looks for the cover of darkness to act our his sin.  The foolish young man walks close to temptation and he takes ...the road to her house in the twilight, in the evening, at the time of night and darkness (Proverbs 7:8-9). Sin and secrecy are friends but it is only the fool who thinks that he sins in secret.  God knows.  God sees. God watches. God is pondering your paths.  That is much more significant of a matter than if you are found out by a spouse or church member.

Consider the consequences of remaining on a sinful path

Another of the great deceptions of sin is that when one is being tempted they tend to forget the existence of God and imagine life only in the moment.  Futuristic thinking is not usually on the mind of the foolish man in the arms of the forbidden woman.  All he can see is her beautiful body. All he can smell is her sweet perfume. All he can imagine is taking his... fill of love till morning...(Proverbs 7:18). And any thought of future consequences for his actions are swept away by the alluring and seductive words of the forbidden woman.  She says that it will all be ok because she is religious (7:14) and her husband is out of town (19-20).  And so, With much seductive speech she persuades him; with her smooth talk she compels him (21). He follows after her as an ox goes to the slaughter or as a stag is caught fast till an arrow pierces its liver; as a bird rushes into a snare; he does not know that it will cost him his life (22-23). He may lose his health, his income, his reputation, his family and ultimately his soul.  In the house of the forbidden woman ...the dead are there, and her guests are in the depths of Sheol (9:18).

Captivate your heart with your spouse

Here is a very positive and delightful remedy.  Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe.  Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love (5:18-19). One of the great reasons that you should read the Song of Solomon is for this purpose.  In Solomon's Song the man and the woman are intoxicated with one another (5:1, 2:5, 5:8, 7:2,8,9).  They are captivated with one another and they have an exclusive relationship. All sorts of non-exclusive relationships are promoted in our culture. Recently a celebrity bragged that she has an "open relationship" with her spouse. That means that though they are married that both are free to spend intimate time with others. The Song of Solomon paints another picture (as does all of Scripture). The most joyful, romantic, erotic of relationships happens in the context of marriage. There the most creative expressions of intimacy can be enjoyed by two people who understand and rejoice in the fact that they are in covenant relationship with one another.

I am my beloved's and his desire is for me.

How can you captivate your heart with your spouse?  We will look at that next time!