In their culture public display of affection (PDA) was tempered. Yet the woman wanted to kiss the man publicly and without fear of what others would say (8:1). Did you get that? She wanted to be able to show her affection for her husband at all times. She longed to kiss him privately and publicly (1:2; 8:1).
Yet--she pulls back the reigns and restrains herself from too much PDA. However, her love was so passionate that it required a warning label.
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you do not stir up or awaken love until it pleases (8:4).
Virgins must be protected from having their desires stirred up before they are married (4,8-9). Yet the passions of a married couple are to be almost unrestrainable. In other words--it is to be obvious to anyone who has eyes to see, that the married couple loves one another. When they go to the banqueting house everyone observes that the banner of love flies over the lady (2:4).
Marital love is to be intoxicating and should cause love sickness (2:5). It is always brimming to the point of overflowing. It is almost uncontainable--even in public. Everyone knows. Everyone is talking. They are saying, see how they love one another. It should provoke in others a joyful portrait of marriage.
A passionate marriage is one of the answers to a culture that is upside down on, even the definition of marriage. Too many marriages are lessons in coexistence. No one is in danger of being stirred up by such joyless marriages. No one wants the emptiness in the eyes of those who have no passion, no joy, and no song in their love. The label on an unhappy marriage does contain a warning. It reads, Warning: Marriage will suck the joy out of your bones. The godly marriage carries a different kind of warning: Warning: Don't let our passionate affection for one another stir you up inappropriately.
Your marriage carries a warning label. What does it say?
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