The Dancing Puritan

Monday, August 5, 2013

Sweet Speech


Solomon and his wife: Image Credit


What if your ordinary conversation with your spouse was recorded, the tone of your voice highlighted, your facial expressions outlined, and your attitude charted? What if an expert conducted a professional analysis of your conversation and attitude towards your spouse? What would be discovered about your marriage?

Would your conversation be characterized as thoughtful, generous, kind, respectful, and loving?  Or would it reflect something else? Would it display stinginess, frustration, dismissiveness, and a lack of love? What would you hear if someone played back a recording of a day of conversation between you and your spouse?

The speech between Solomon and his lady is instructive, encouraging, and refreshing. The way that they talk to and about one another is convicting (to those of us that have let our guard down in our ordinary talk). Their conversation is potentially life transforming for those who will listen in with intent to really hear and follow their example.

In numerous ways both Solomon and the lady are described as sweet. Their sweetness is reflected in their speech. Solomon was beloved by people because his life produced a sweet smelling aroma.  People loved him because he was generous, wise, benevolent, and creative. It is obvious throughout the Song of Solomon that people were in awe both of Solomon and his lady.

During a recent reading of The Song of Solomon I came face-to-face with a convicting question. I had to ask myself, do others look at my life and see a generous, wise, creative, kind, desirable, sweet, and pleasant life that could be compared to the best things on this earth? Others saw such things in Solomon (1:3). More importantly what does my wife see?  Does she see a generous, wise, creative, kind, desirable, sweet, and pleasant man that could be compared to beautiful things?

Could your life be compared to sweet perfume or to the best tasting wine? Do you leave behind a fresh aroma and richness when you interact with your spouse? What do you smell like? How do you taste? When you walk into a room do you bring a sense of hopefulness, joy, and big-heartiness in your conversation and demeanor? David writes:

Seek the LORD and his strength; seek his presence continually (Psalm 105:4).

Your spouse is a gift from God, not to be neglected and not to be dismissed in your consideration and conversation. You have been given to your spouse as a means to bring sweetness and beauty to them.  Seek the Lord. Seek his strength. Seek his presence. Act accordingly.