The Dancing Puritan

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

14 Days of Love: Day Three: Kiss

Day One: Write a Song/Poem for your Spouse. Here
Day Two: Pray, Tell, and Pray. Here

Day Three: Kiss!
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine; your anointing oils are fragrant; your name is oil poured out; therefore virgins love you. Draw me after you; let us run. The king has brought me into his chambers. The Song of Solomon (SOS) 1:2-4.
Isn't it wonderful that Solomon's best song opens with a stanza about kissing? The lady in SOS daydreams about kissing: "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth." And then she speaks directly to her man: "For your love is better than wine; your anointing oils are fragrant; your name is oil poured out . . ."

Let him . . .

For your . . .

Kissing is a big deal in SOS. Is it a big deal in your marriage? How often do you go through an entire day without giving or receiving a kiss? Really, that often?

It has often been surmised that kissing is a more intimate act than full sexual intimacy. Lip-to-lip kissing connects at the point of communication, the mouth. Kissing is the natural precursor to complete sexual expression because it says, "I care about you. I want to communicate with you. I want to be near to you."

Kissing, though the natural precursor to sexual intimacy, is good all by itself.

In the first chapter of SOS, there is no hint of sexual expression. Yet kissing is there. Love is described. Beauty is communicated. Perfume fills the air and poetry, along with kissing, is on the lips.

Kissing is sacred. Let me put it like this: It is a godly thing to kiss your spouse. It is spoken of in the most positive of terms in SOS.
Your lips drip nectar, my bride; honey and milk are under your tongue; the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon. (4:11).
The woman in SOS desires to be kissed by the man who loves her. His love for her is "better than wine." Wine was a precious commodity in Solomon's day. It was rich and sweet. Before wine could touch the lips, vines had been carefully cared for and pruned. The grapes were then gathered, pressed, and aged.

Love and joyful kissing go together. That is one reason why sexual immorality is so foolish. When a person engages in sexual immorality they are bypassing love and focusing only on physical and/or emotional pleasure. But true love is cultivated by hard work, pressed by trials, and matures over time. As love grows deeper, kissing becomes sweeter and richer. And kissing can continue even when   other aspects of intimacy diminish due to physical disabilities.


Kiss.  Try the "15 Second Kiss" experiment. Link Here: KISS

Get in the pathway of your spouse, face them, and kiss them. Kiss them several times a day and let one of those kisses be for at least 15 seconds.

Love.  Loving your spouse is not predicated on them displaying love to you. Loving your spouse is predicated on knowing and loving the gospel (I John 4:19).

Desire. If your desire for your spouse is not very strong right now, ask God to help you. Often you will find that praying for and doing loving things for your spouse will help to stir up desire. The lady in SOS longed to be kissed by the king because his love for her was strong. Perhaps your "king" is not displaying love towards you. If that is the case, remember the KING. His love is everlasting, overflowing, and is truly better than the best things of life.

Remember, marriage is about the gospel. Look to Christ, bathe in the gospel, and kiss your spouse.

Ray Rhodes, Jr. is President of Nourished in the Word Ministries.